The divorce rate in the United States is alarming. Over half the couples who start out together don't make it, but, with a little effort, that numer could change for the better.
I'm not a marriage counselor, but I have helped a few couples fix a relationship that was heading for the rocks.
If your marriage, or relationship is worth saving, and I have only seen a few that weren't, then you owe it to yourself not to call it quits too soon. That means you shouldn't give up until you have exhausted every possibility to regain the closeness that the two of you once had.
Start out by making sure that you aren't the one who is making life difficult for the two of you. It's easy to blame the other party, but the chances are that both partners share some of the guilt.
In my experience, the best way to get a shaky relationship back on a solid foundation is to redefine what love really is. One of the best definitions I have heard of true love is "the willingness to do whatever is best for the other party, no matter what the cost may be to yourself."
Wow. That's quite a mouthful, isn't it? Notice, it doesn't say that you have to give in to everything the other person wants or demands, but that you will do whatever is best for them. If you can honestly say that you are doing that, no matter what the circumstance, your caring will begin to shine through to your partner and make it really difficult for them not to respond in kind.
For more suggestions check out, The Magic of Making Up. It's crammed full of ideas of what you can do to restore your marriage or relationship even if your partner has already left.
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